I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I’ve lived a good portion of my life afraid of the future: worrying over getting homework in on time, getting into a good college with the right major, what sort of career I wanted, budgeting for rent and paying off loans, making grocery lists in my head, etc.
I knew, logically, that living in the future was a great source of anxiety. But I never quite realized until now exactly how much I was doing it. It all seemed so natural, because it had been instilled in me from a very young age. Make sure to plan, to save, to look forward.
I learned to be acutely aware of any and all potential consequences of even the smallest action. I held myself back from creating because I wondered if anyone would like it or if it would sell. I didn’t take opportunities because I was afraid of missing out on something else, or not being able to do it justice. I worried constantly of whether or not I was making the right choices to make my life what I wanted it to be–or if I even really knew what I wanted it to be.
So was it really any wonder I ended up the anxious wreck that I finally became these last few years?
They say to live in the moment, but so much of that advice also revolves around a lot of mindfulness practices and New Age stuff that just doesn’t resonate with me. But over the last couple of days, I’ve been more consciously mulling over my habit of living for the future.
I’ve decided it’s stupid. I know I won’t be able to shake it off entirely that easily, but I’m going to try somehow. Because life is too short and who knows what’s actually going to happen in the future, regardless of what steps I take. Obviously, I have to keep in mind “will I still be able to eat if I do X” sorts of things, but for the most part, I want to try and focus on what fulfills me now. Whether that’s quitting something that’s stressing me out instead of hanging on for potential future opportunities or getting a new tattoo doesn’t really matter.
What matters is that I’m learning to make myself happy again. And I can’t honestly believe how long it’s taken me to get back to that. Here’s hoping I can keep working toward it.